Everytime we face the problem , we develop the solution for a situation

But the solution may not be the perfect one , but we should belive that s the BEST one

Only then we develop the confidence that we too can deliver it..

we keep waiting for others to come and solve steps for us,, this depletes our abilities 

to think

We become dependent on others…. LIFE doesnt teach us to be dependent

It makes us independent or makes us a parasite 

Completely dependent on others (Exploiting others for our existence)

WE are then becoming the usual lazy humans who care only for the results 

losing ourselves ////////


hmm dude 

Everything that is necessary , we learn here 

Whatever is unnecessary is left out, 

but others wanna tesch you everything,

Life teaches you only the necessary things..

Difference between Life and Others..



Hows that????????


Thats not sad actuallly

to differentiate between good and bad u shud know abut bad too


Lets learn the Five Steps To Self-Belief

1. Fill the gap. 


I cannot stress how important this is.  Plan ahead and be pro-active. If you find yourself at a juncture in your life where all you can see is a void ask yourself this all-important question:  “What small step could I take right now to fill that gap and boost my self-belief”?  Do it now.  


A few years ago I found myself yet again in this unenviable position.  I decided I’d had enough of staring at the prospect of nothing and made the decision to take up Flamenco dancing.  


The reward was phenomenal.  My self-belief soared as I realised the progress I was making each week not to mention the fun I was having and I was able to use that new found belief in myself to approach my work situation with a much more relaxed and positive mindset.  


Approaching new goals or challenges with a healthy mindset is crucial to achieving the results you strive for.


2. Keep your focus.


Keep focused on what it is you truly want out of life, even if it seems like a million miles away.  Don’t be tempted to wallow in self-pity at what you haven’t got or what you’ve just left behind. 


Focusing on what you want and working out ways to make it happen will catapult your self-belief in times of doubt.  Even when I am ‘in between jobs,’ it is crucial for me to invest my time and energy into keeping focused on the way forward.


I’ve tried it the other way focusing on what I haven’t got and I can guarantee from my own experience if you continue to focus on the lack of you will reap more lack of…


3.  Appreciate yourself.  


If you don’t stop to appreciate your accomplishments to date, what in the long run is the point to any of them? 


I have worked with clients who have accomplished huge challenges but have never stopped to take any of it in before plunging into their next goal, feeling empty. 


Would you visit the country of your dreams without stopping to take in the breathtaking views?  Of course you wouldn’t. 


Stop right now and admire your own marvellous view. Make a list of what you are most proud of.  You must congratulate yourself on your successes, particularly in times of doubt.


4. Watch your tongue.


Watch what you say especially in times of doubt.  Be brave and refuse to indulge in negative talk even if you don’t think there’s anything to be positive about.  


Ban certain words from your vocabulary.  If you were watching a TV programme you found depressing or negative my guess is you’d switch channels. 


Switch your vocabulary now. Using negative vocabulary will immobilise you and, apart from anything else, it’s really not that pleasant to be around someone who can’t find anything good to say.  Do you want to be that person?

5.  Do something spontaneous! 


Variety, or if you like, spontaneity is the spice of life!  There’s nothing like doing something spontaneous and playful in times of anxiety to really raise the roof on your spirits. 


Being in a light-hearted frame of mind will do wonders to ease the burden of worry and is more likely to shift you into a better frame of mind to do something pro-active towards your goals. 


I put on my dance shoes and have some serious fun and I always find my self-belief creeping back in with a vengeance.



And remember – if you don’t believe in yourself what chance has anyone else got?

i am quoting from a website


Life only teaches you , how to be  mean. animal instincts… 

That is what we learn from others , how to hide our real nature 

Life is so pure It will never teach u that 

But we learn that from others , Hide and deceit, cheat 

sometimes for our good … mostly

but otherwise too


poem that inspired me

[b]Harshan is no more , Capt. Harshan R to most , he was a great friend of mine.He  loved this poem,he once wrote it to me from nda……national defense academy…           
[/b]                     [red] [b]  [if] [/b][/red]
if you can keep your head when all about you
are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
if you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
but make allowance for their doubting too,
if you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
and yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
if you can dream–and not make dreams your master,
if you can think–and not make thoughts your aim;
if you can meet with triumph and disaster
and treat those two impostors just the same;
if you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
and stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

if you can make one heap of all your winnings
and risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
and lose, and start again at your beginnings
and never breath a word about your loss;
if you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
to serve your turn long after they are gone,
and so hold on when there is nothing in you
except the will which says to them: “hold on!”

if you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
or walk with kings–nor lose the common touch,
if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
if all men count with you, but none too much,
if you can fill the unforgiving minute
with sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
yours is the earth and everything that’s in it,
and–which is more–you’ll be a man, my son!
–Rudyard Kipling[/b]


When she lost ,it was lost for him too…

The morning was colder and biting the bones. He has got up earlier than previous days.  He was looking for a silence , silencng the winds of inner turbulence. He was out there for a walk.  He was looking for the quieter moment when he could hear himself. He knew one thing , its important for a person to get a few moments for himself.  And he was already settling down , there was a Hot cup of tea for him in the restaurant.

 Whether you meditate, or take walks alone you need to take time each day to get quiet and centered and be the observer of yourself so you can reflect on your day and your life. Listen to the small still voice within.

Daily time for himself , he found himself , he lost himself….

Morning time is so calm with the earth spinning so silently….

Some words …..

               10th june 2003

My dear friend,

                                     You are so kind to me….. Thank you so much…


Then what about your writing ?


I will not compel you to write  again and again because I can understand your condition .

Now I have started to paint a mural painting for you ….( because you  are my good friend)


The so called sponsors of sowparnika are not in good terms with me . Look arun,  I am not exaggerating things , there’s no way to escape but I have a theory of my own.


In life there is nothing to worry or fear if we know how to keep our personality well turned up .. and properly adjusted … walking out smiling at our problems  ……..



Today’s thamasha ……..  !

 He who loudly chants the Hare Krsna  mantra even negligently will without doubt reach

Success ..


Try it :

Mind you this is from Agnipurana and not my creation..



Hare Krsna Hare Krsna  krsna krsna hare hare 

Ratanti helaya  vapite krthartha na samasyah ..


Don’t ask me about the meaning …


………  my dear rapid fluent talker


Now I have some books to read …. Some critical works of Victor shklowsky


And what about your examinations ?


Oh ! The never ending examinations !


How can one judge the ability of a student in two or three hours?

Ofcourse it’s a matter of luck whether he does well or not ….


The “Results” remain a horror !


Study well – my dear  good friend …..


Work hard ……. Ok ……


“Don t waste your valuable time “

We will meet again

Till then

Bye then


Sunil don’t waste your time ………..

By reading such an ‘absurd’ letter

Study well

Yours ,








Dear friend,

         Finally it happened —– the very thing that I imagined with a deep sense of shock. My grandpa’s death — he was  a pillar of love & strength whom we could always rely on.

He was the very embodiment of love. Really this will be a terrible experience —Viv.

         My uncles loved me very much. It was this affection that I lost all of a sudden. I could find a lot of change expression on my uncle’s face. I cannot see my Mom’s face. Its flushed  red from the experience of having encountered a moment of truth.


       Now —- I have something grave & heavy to think of … think of my future … my life.


Really I ‘m suffering …………..



     ————————– Sowparnika

Letters from a friend………..


 I hurt you so much …. Sorry my dear friend. I have no words to express it. I hate this busy life viv  … I really hate …. I have completed a big project today. A bad news  for you—I am going to stop painting pictures. Bitterness of this profession I cant  manage it. There  are some people who are trying to exploit me. They need my ideas . Really they

Are haunting me.

 I got your cards. Its so lovely! Viv, why do  your mind an ugly thing? According to sowparnika you don’t have any phobias. Its all your false interpretations. Theres no need

Of  any psychiatrist.  You need ‘Love’. Love is the most important thing in the world.

These sorrows are the expression of the various forces of life, it will change.


Everything that exists in this world  is good I think.


Look Viv, I had a very rough childhood .After the separation of my parents I had started to live in my uncle’s house. Even now I am continuing a bitter life. Life is miserable you know that. There is an inherent kind of instability throughout  my life.


I read that “wisdom is not communicable” That’s why I cannot express it through words. You can conquer that ‘wisdom’ only through experience. The real form of life is not the all beautiful … . its horrible, pathetic…. Sometimes. You cannot ignore the reality of life.


I think you have a pessimistic vision of life. Now come to the world of realism . We are living in a higher level of reality. So be practical and optimistic.


We are looking for a meaningful life. And I request you to make your life meaningful. I believe ….. YOU CAN …….


I will be with you  in your sorrows …. Giving you ‘my world’.


Strive On! With tireless enthusiasm .

Strive  on to reach your goal , without a goal , the best in you can never come out expression. As we stride one to accomplish  a chosen goal. No doubt God tests us by heaping many apparently impossible hurdles on our direct path to goal.

But with enthusiasm , fearless of the obstacles ,smiling in full self confidence when we dash towards the goal , all the  seemingly terrible obstacles move away as shadows!



I am inviting you to my college. I want to see you… please inform me before that..

I will meet you again…

                          Till then

Good bye


Your good friend



“Tell my regards to your friends.”

Write your phone number

I cant avoid you bcoz you ‘re a nice friend.


********* TALK ABOUT THE SALARY ***************

The boss was planning for a honeymoon trip to a hill station , that means the staff expected him to be away for a couple of weeks.They all said ,”GOD Bless the couple”.

A sample letter that the receptionist had to type for enquiry to check hotel rooms is given here, poor girl she had the toughest time writing one letter.


“I would like to know about the status of availability of hotel rooms in the first week of January 2008. If there are rooms available in your hotel, please send me a tariff plan about the rates of rooms per day so that I can chose a room according to my budget.We are looking forward to accommodation for two people for 2 days and 2 nights.”


After the letter was reviewed by the boss and got accepted , she had a sleepfull night at last.


Normally when he is around , nobody sits after the office time. But its just opposite when he is away….

Here’s another conversation on the day prior to his arrival from the vacation.

Employee asking his colleague,”Until when do you want to use this office?

we only have two days of freedom including today… Bad luck …i hope he had more days to his trip…

i’m go out to buy things to put into the box and will ask for packing tomorow at the tailor…”

He gets the reply,”When is he coming back on saturday ? Is it evening or in the morning itself”

“better ask receptionist, since i have no idea…she books his ticket..”

“Oh ok ! I wil ask her then”


On the first of december , everybody was surprised to get their salaries.


“Have u got the check,but its only the first today” most of them argued.

“i got it anyway”

“Have you”

“i’ve mentioned 32 second before, but no i havent.”

“Even i need to get it”

“shall we go and get it now?”

“Alright we do it now”


Some of the lady members in the office are always obsessed with clothes and utensils..”can you help me to get a cloth for the “churidar”, you know i dont have a red one ….”

An international employee asking an indian colleague,”can you help me to get a cloth and possibly a box to send a paracel to home?”

look at the tailor…

The tailor of the shop after the japanese visits his shop with the cloth,”sir please lemme know the details of time So that i can help u in providing my valuable



An indian will never get that respect from an indian tailor.


here is another plan of drinking…


“I would like mention the time and the plan regarding your request.

My plan is to leave office at 6:45PM and head to the textile store near Orchid Bar , the place where Mr. Ajesh has mentioned earlier.”


“After we could successfully got the white cloth from the store, I then would like to go to the place where they offer me a box of which I can use it for packaging.  Since it looks like it doesn’t take much time, I am seeking for your cooperation after work.”

Theres the chance for the greedy colleague for a drinking offer..

“Wow whats the plan after that ?”

The japanese is cunning too.. Drinks demand a lot of money ..

Indians never share with him , so he avoids them ….

“I don’t know.  What’s your plan :D?”

But the indian had to be humble to grab the drinks offer before its lost or a mood change of the japanese’

“i am at yr service whatever yr plans are”, replied.

LOL .. good incidence to remember..

“Shall I help you for the cooking process as a sub-chef?”

“Alright then we make chappathis tode with some beautiful DAL and potato curry”

“Then I will help kneading the dough and cutting veggies part. Done?”

“hmm …..thats fun and we can eat together , theres nothing better than njoying a good meal .”

“How about going to the Reliance fresh”


“I will help for the grocery cost to thank your cooperation.”

“even thats sounding like a great treat today ..”

“Why dont we make something stuffy and heavy”

“We never get this chance again”

“let’s do that.”

“we’ll have a stuffy one.”


“How lovely of you to have agreed to make a good time ?”

“I am happy again……….”


Poor guy there was no drinks that day, but luckily he could save on the groceries..



Lesson of the story ..

“i mean is honey”