A small lesson from life



How is one to live a moral and compassionate existence when one is fully aware of the blood, the horror inherent in life, when one finds darkness not only in one’s culture but within oneself? If there is a stage at which an individual life becomes truly adult, it must be when one grasps the irony in its unfolding and accepts responsibility for a life lived in the midst of such paradox. One must live in the middle of contradiction, because if all contradiction were eliminated at once life would collapse. There are simply no answers to some of the great pressing questions. You continue to live them out, making your life a worthy expression of leaning into the light.


Have you ever thought about the signals that we receive during our interaction with a human being during a relation. Sometimes we mistake people for friendship and start trusting them openly and blindly. And often naturally we get the feeling of being good and hopeful.

Of the hatred that develops in our mind, we keep it suppressed and wait for the next moment. We then say a lie to ourselves and specify it to others that,”Hey i am ok, no hard feelings”.     Where as in our mind, the hatred grew and deviced a coup against the person. A person whom we trusted so much, and genuinely our mind will ask itself… “How the hell he can ever think of doing that”

I heard it so many a times  from my friend that i know that he is surely lying to himself. How hard is it to be frank and tell that, “I dont want it any more”. To be decisive is a great way of simplifying life but it aint that easy as well.

You keep continuing despite the fact that No matter (However) how much you love or respect the other person, some never try to see the goodness and keep behaving in the rudimentary way to judge their best and keep their interests unharmed.  They repeat signals of their ego. You are left behind .

Is it because people took him for granted, his goodness for fun and his attitude as weakness. Generally we see people like him suffer.


I still remember pradeep saying this to me,”Dude i am always there with you. No matter what decisions you make, i know you will be mature. But sometimes i might oppose you at some point not because i dont like you, but because i really like our friendship.”

There was more than enough reason for them to be good friends,

“We  are afraid of losing that person, thats why you never ask him the money”, said one of them.

“But if you dont ask  him now, then he is not going to give you the money back”…

“He will take it as an excuse, Money is no compromise”

“I know you are afraid to make a call and ask him, but theres no other way, I want you to do that now”

“Let him understand that we need money and our needs are also valid”

“he was your closest friend”, strongly said Vivel. He was smiling to cover his disappointment and anger. Shaheen joined him equally well.
“And today he is your enemy”
“How come?”
“Is it his mistake or your mistake”
“If you dont ask him the money now, Its now or never”

They were talking about a friend Mibu, who worked as a manager.
The dining table discussion was very heated up. They were four in all, and were finishing the dinner after a tiring job of shifting the Luggage to the newly occupied room.
Varun was keeping very quiet. But the entire room sounded with noises and shouting of people gathered for drinks and food.

It was the Orchid Bar. Busy time for the bartenders. The TV was unnecessarily barking and blinking with colors. Star movies was showing a movie and somebody in it was saying,” The bitch barked as he came nearer, she was fiercely protective of her kids. ” Proven Track Record of a situational bastard”, ” He proves it daily… till his last breath.. ” thought the bitch. .And the alchemist moved on. The puppies were astranged for a while.

No body noticed it.  But a program in Discovery channel was about Employee motivation. They were showing live examples.

There were about 70 scientists working on a very hectic project. All of them were really frustrated due to the pressure of work and the demands of their boss but everyone was loyal to him and did not think of quitting the job.

One day, one scientist came to his boss and told him – Sir, I have promised to my children that I will take them to the exhibition going on in our township. So I want to leave the office at 5 30 pm.

His boss replied “OK, You’re permitted to leave the office early today” The Scientist started working. He continued his work after lunch. As usual he got involved to such an extent that he looked at his watch when he felt he was close to completion. The time was 8.30 PM. Suddenly he remembered of the promise he had given to his children.

He looked for his boss, He was not there. Having told him in the morning itself, he closed everything and left for home. Deep within himself, he was feeling guilty for having disappointed his children.

He reached home. Children were not there. His wife alone was sitting in the hall and reading magazines.

The situation was explosive, any talk would boomerang on him. His wife asked him “Would you like to have coffee or shall I straight away serve dinner if you are hungry.

The man replied “If you would like to have coffee, i too will have but what about Children ??”

Wife replied “You don’t know ?? Your manager came here at 5.15 PM and has taken the children

to the exhibition ”

What had really happened was … The boss who granted him permission was observing him working

seriously at 5.00 PM. He thought to himself, this person will not leave the work, but if he has promised

his children they should enjoy the visit to exhibition.

So he took the lead in taking them to exhibition. The boss does not have to do it every time.

But once it is done, loyalty is established. That is why all the scientists at Thumba continued to work under their boss even though the stress was tremendous.


Was the person good


“My mood was under her influence,then i looked out of the door ,i
could see her impressively beautiful standing bathed in the moonlight ,the rays
reflected of her bossom and navel.” i stood their for while ,gazing.There was silence around.and it was dark in my room.The only white object was the taj “oh! darling ,it is so beautiful” She just  came from the shower. We both were looking at the taj
mahal from our Hotel room.(purely imagiantion).
I knew that  the taj mahal is one of the most romantic monuments on earth,when moonlight
falls on her,she looks so beautiful like a glowing white jewel. Bathed in milk.
I will fantasy this way,i go to delhi from cochin with my belowed .Then she has
this plan of seeing the taj dipped in white moon light.My lover is a romantic
lady. I know she can be turned on with this visit. And this could be a treat for
her, me and lover slowly walk towards the taj.Hand in hand, touching and feeling
each other.
From the far, a glow has filled  around.I think what the great emperor Shah
Jahan had in his mind when he decided to build the taj,Was it a present to his
belowed. was it a testimonial to their love. or something else.
Then i wondered if i  could do anything to please my belowed .